Governor Sanford thought, it's bad when other men do it.

NYT reveals, in passing, a big part of why conservatives are so opposed to marriage equality:within the sanctity of their privileged little circle, they've sorted out how to have it both ways while imagining the purity of their motives is intact:

“People tend to assume that bad people have affairs, and good people don’t, or that affairs only happen in bad marriages,” said Peggy Vaughan, a San Diego-based researcher who runs the Web site dearpeggy.com, and author of a forthcoming book on infidelity and marriage, “To Have and to Hold.” “These assumptions are just not based in reality.”

Small wonder it was Christianists who invented secondary virginity. And, as you might suspect, Grover Norquist is hovering in the area.